G/f imagining other ppl during sex (weed)

[KKparadox]

Here's a thought - why don't you set up a scenario where she hears YOU talking about fantasising about famous women?

Or better still, stop over-analysing it and enjoy your stoned sex sessions - a lot of people would be jealous of you, brother.

[dreammm]

she probably didnt mean she does that to you... but meant she has done it to other people. if someone is that much of a turn of you have to imagine someone else while having sex... then you probably arnt in a relationship. its probably those one night stands that people more so imagine another person.

if its bothering you that much
straight out ask her if shes done it
tell her not to do it again
and if you dont like her answers then you wernt meant to be together

communication is important. without it everything else eventually breaks down.. even mind blowing world rocking sex.

[Alikin123]

your girlfriend needs a slap if she admits to things liek that, thats a real kick in the teeth, i hate it when women talk about stuff thats is blatently going to hit you hard but cos theyre with their mates its all ok,n then if yo usay sumthing it will make you look stupid infront of evryone I mean girls are headfucks at times.

[cannagirl]

Well as a girl who has thought about other men a few times.....trust me, it's not the weed. If she wasn't really into you she wouldn't be with you. Everyone does that every once in a while. And if she's like me shes is probly not doing it the whole time. I did it when I was engaged and it didn't mean I loved him any less, it's just human. If she is talking about it so candidly it means she doesn't feel guilty about it which mean she isn't like trying to hurt you or loves you any less, sometimes its just fun. Like role playing...

If you really think it's a problem and just can't stand it then you can politely bring it up. There are way worse things that could fuck up a relationship. If you really like or love this girl, then you can share how it makes you feel but don't be a jerk about it, that wouldn't help either of you....Not saying you are going to be a jerk...i'm tired and i didn't read the whole thread, just think it's not worth risking what you guys might have....i'm sure my old boyfriends have probly done it too and I just don't think it's that big of deal. But like I said if it really bothers you, share your feelings. Girls love that you know

[purplehaze]

Ask her about it, who cares that you over heard it, a good relationship has wide open doors of communication.

Everyone is different, why ask a million strangers who are only capable of forming an opinion based on there experience with life when you could spend 10 minutes discussing it with her and it be over with, no more worrying or stress.


I'd say you don't have anything to worry about. These things can build up, so the sooner you bring it out the sooner you can stop thinking about it. And really, when you look back on it, its kinda silly.

[cnsns2ccl2]

For one thing, most women prefer it with the lights out unless they are extremely comfortable. Women seem to be much more self-conscious naturally than men unfortunately.

Swim thinks you are taking it personally that she is thinking about someone else during sex like you aren't doing a good job or something. That's not it. She probably doesn't even fantasize every single time but quite possibly when she smokes weed, her unconscious inhibitions go down a bit and her mind wonders outside the box making the whole scene more erotic. She says it's great so it's obviously enhancing the experience with you. You should be happy she is enjoying it so much. It's like when girls touch themselves during sex, makes it all hotter. Would you be opposed to that?

[Coconut]

Everyone fantasises about other people at times. It just happens; it's human nature. I don't see anything wrong with it unless someone's fantasies exclusively involve other people and not their partner. That's when it becomes a problem.

Most issues in bed can be resolved by quite simply by talking! If you can't communicate well and there is a problem with your sex life then you could become resentful, timid, unable to get/keep it up and so on, which will sabotage the entire relationship. Forget your pride and just be honest with one another so the situation can be mended.

[runitsthepolice]

shes a bitch dump her