Addiction - Is addiction more likely to occour in someone who has a family history of addiction?

[~EnChAnTeD_DrEaMz~]

Well as the title says,

Would SWIM be more likely to become addicted if she tried smack?

The person that gave birth to SWIM was addicted to heroin, including the time she was pregnant with SWIM.

SWIM was made award of the state at the age of 1 yr old, as that thing left me at a service station whilst she went and swold herself to support her addiction.

SWIM's SO EX was also a herion addict, SWIM's SO said that he would neve allow SWIM to try it as he fears she to will become addicted to it.

So what does Herion feel like, can someone please explain it to me, what is it simular to if anythin?

What do you think the chances are of SWIM becoming addicted?

This is all just hypothetical as SWIM doubts she would ever touch heroin as she doesn't want to become the same as the thing that gave her life, before she gave her hope.

[kaczynski]

YES, people can be genetically inclined to addiction as well as physically inclined if their body got a taste of a substance while in the womb. Please be careful.

[pinksox]

Statistically, the chances are higher, yes.

Personally, SWIM thinks SWIY would be wise to not even begin the walk down that path...but would seek to address whatever the issue was in her life that was leading her to consider making such choices.

The price one ultimately pays is just not worth the cost. SWIY should read a few of the very poignant journals about addiction and recovery several users have posted here at DF. Read them and then read them again.

Opiates will rip your fucking soul out and stomp on it until SWIY is a lost shell of a human crying alone in a dark forgotten corner somewhere.

[trannyboy]

To answer your question having a family member with addictions increases the risk of having addictions yourself, and the closer the relationship the higher the chances with a mother being very high on the list. The third and largest nail in the coffin is if you were born while the mother was using, this increases the odds dramatically. Add into the mix your social environment i.e. up bringing, truama, neglect, abuse and your risks rise higher. Then to add insult to injury your partner is an addict... you should never ever ever use in your lifetime. The risks in your case are enormous. I can't think of anything that could raise the risks higher unless you also have an addictive personality in which case you don't stand a snowballs chance in hell if you were to start using.

Whatever is making you think about using should be addressed with a therapist that your respect and trust because the dangers for you are all too real and serious. Please don't even think about using, it might be the worst thing you could possibly do in your situation.

Oh and by the way you don't sound anything like your mother. Coming here and being honest about your concerns and fears prior to using is probably something your mother is incapable of if she couldn't stop for her own flesh and blood. I could be wrong but you sound a lot more mature then a woman who would do what you describe. Take care and good luck, I will be rooting for you.

trannyboy

[~EnChAnTeD_DrEaMz~]

When i was born i was in the neo-natal intensive care unit. Details aboutthis are very vauge.

My parner isn't a addict, his ex was, and she took him for anything and everything.

The thing that gave birth to me, has been on methadone, now for roughly 10 years, i have nothing to do with her at all, and she plays no part in mine of my family's life.

thanks everyone for your replies.

I dont think i could ever walk that lonely road, i have to much to loose, and i don't want my kids to hate and despies me the same way that i do her.

SWIM recently had a binge of 2 weeks, and she was off tap everyday, SWIM broke down yesterday scared that she was following the footprints that are embedded in her veins.

I have been through alot of trauma.

[trannyboy]

My apologies about my comment about your partner. I misplaced my glasses recently and I am having trouble reading the computer screen, I must have misread your post.

It sounds like you have had a lot of sadness in your life both as a child and recently. I encourage you to find someone to speak to about it. As for the binge recently (I think you are meant alcohol), you should be careful because addiction have a lot in common no matter what the substance. You need to think about what it was that made you want to drink so much. It does sound like you have a lot to live for like your kids and partner but it is also very important to also live for yourself as well.

I am glad to hear you aren't considering the lonely world of opiate abuse but be careful not to fall into the equally lonely world of alcohol abuse. It is good that you were able to stop and recognize that things were getting out of control but there is most likely a reason for it in the first place. My experience with addictions is they usually hide a lot of pain and suffering that we are unable or unwilling to look honestly at. Whenever we ignore our feeling it becomes very easy to hide behind something, anything really. Addiction can exist to anything, different addictions have different risks and dangers but the most common factor I have seen is unacknowledged pain.

I don't know if you have someone in your life that you can talk to about these things but I know I needed a therapist at points in my life to help me confront my demons and walk with me while I addressed the things I needed to address. We all have our demons and it is easier (not easy) to look at them honestly with the help of a professional. Good luck and welcome to the board.

trannyboy

[kaczynski]

[QUOTE=trannyboy;586789
I am glad to hear you aren't considering the lonely world of opiate abuse but be careful not to fall into the equally lonely world of alcohol abuse.
trannyboy[/QUOTE]

Agreed. Since swiy is asking such a question, SWIM is inclined to agree with this specification. SWIM has struggled with the abuse of many substances, and after overcoming this realized to his dismay that it applies to alcohol abuse just as much as anything else. It's tough for some swiys, since we live in a world where the most basic source for substance abuse is more legal and obtainable than a carton of eggs. Again, PLEASE be careful.

[harrygoldfarp]

in short.. Yes

[chillinwill]

If SWIY knows that their family has addiction issues, but more specifically, heroin addiction issues, then why would SWIY want to venture into that territory? Its setting SWIY up for an addiction as well (this isn't the case all the time but Red Rock does believe genetics plays some part into addiction) and SWIY could be more susceptible to opiates.

[BrownStreakRailroad]

SWIM thinks that SWIY have worries or concerns about the matter otherwise SWIY would not be on a heroin forum, it obviously has played a huge role in SWIY'r life and from what SWIM has seen, it definatly can be genetically passed down but also the environmental factors play a part. maybe SWIY should be careful because the things SWIY have to lose can slowly fall away with heroin and SWIY are seemingly interested. SWIY'r last comment grabbed SWIM's attention that SWIY have been through alot of trauma, and the more SWIY think about heroin, SWIY may end up just saying 'fuck it' one day as SWIM did.

[knyvezz]

SWIM's father is an opiate addict and recovering alcoholic. SWIM got addicted to opiates over the past year.. It definitely runs in the family, I didn't believe it either, but watching it happen definitely changed my mind on that one.

If you can avoid getting addicted to these things then you should.. It's such a painful process.

[~EnChAnTeD_DrEaMz~]

As SWIM sits there and wonders what would/could be more painful.
SWIM just wants to be numb, and opiates do this for swim.

Days like mothers day ect makes SWIM think alot, what did SWIM do to deserve ths, why couldn't SWIM have a loving mum.

As that goes through SWIMS head, SWIM realises strongly that
SWIM is fucking dreaming out loud as there is no way on earth SWIM would do this, full knowing SWIM has 3 kids under 7 and that SWIM WOULD LOOSE EVERYTHING she has worked her ass off for.

SWIM doesn't want to become like her, yeah sure SWIM wants to be numb but SWIM is a MUM and a good one at that! ( well what i know of, its hard being a mum when SWIM has never had one)

zI think ill just stick to the pills, pills, pills and more pills.

[Ilsa]

mother's day is tough for my cat also....she has a family history of addiction, and has been there herself.

she can say with certainty that genetics play a role...if a parent or parents is/are addicted or have a history, hteir children are more inclined. environment plays a significant role as well, and it sounds as though swiy's environment wasn't the best to begin with....this is a dangerous edge to tread.

swiy is looking honestly at herslf and her motivations and past....this is very good, as it's the first, and most difficult, step to overcoming the setbacks inherent in some of us. swiy sounds liek a very good mother, haveing learned from her own mother's mistakes, and is placing her children as a top priority, to prevent the kind of damage she suffered as a kid.

swiy has a lot of loss to grieve, and can pm swim whenever she needs/wants to vent....but remembreto give credit where it's due for being a good mom and honestly examining herself in order to address the CAUSES and not just the symptoms (pills, self-medicating) of her actions.

keep it up!

namaste

[Spucky]

Originally Posted by ~EnChAnTeD_DrEaMz~

As SWIM sits there and wonders what would/could be more painful.
SWIM just wants to be numb, and opiates do this for swim.

There is a point that Opioids will not make swiny Numb anymore,
at this Point Opioids will increase all your bad feelings because
all your own "good stuff" will disappear!

Originally Posted by ~EnChAnTeD_DrEaMz~

Days like mothers day ect makes SWIM think alot, what did SWIM do to deserve ths, why couldn't SWIM have a loving mum.

All People have a loving Mum,
but sometimes it is not that one you are thinking of!

Originally Posted by ~EnChAnTeD_DrEaMz~

As that goes through SWIMS head, SWIM realises strongly that
SWIM is fucking dreaming out loud as there is no way on earth SWIM would do this, full knowing SWIM has 3 kids under 7 and that SWIM WOULD LOOSE EVERYTHING she has worked her ass off for.

SWIM doesn't want to become like her, yeah sure SWIM wants to be numb but SWIM is a MUM and a good one at that! ( well what i know of, its hard being a mum when SWIM has never had one)

Swim dont know the and your situation in Australia
but for your case there is help, for sure.
Why swiny not asking for support?
Many Times People just need a helping Hand,
go and just ask for it,
its stupid to risk everything, dont Play with the Souls of your Kids!

Regards, do not give up,
go and fight for at least until the Kids left the House!

Gambatte o kudasai!

[~EnChAnTeD_DrEaMz~]

SWIM has done alot of thinking this passed week and has decided that it is time to transfer all that hatred and negative energy into positive energy and into practice, i have grieved for my loss and my childrens loss of a nana. I cried ( something that doesn't happen very often) in my partners arms and just let it all out.

Turning to heroin is not the answer, i see this clearly now.

I want thank each and every single one of you who took the time out of YOUR LIFE to HELP SWIM. that doesn't happen for SWIM very much.

Thanks guys and gals, SWIM really appreciates it.

[Spucky]

Originally Posted by ~EnChAnTeD_DrEaMz~

SWIM has done alot of thinking this passed week and has decided that it is time to transfer all that hatred and negative energy into positive energy and into practice, i have grieved for my loss and my childrens loss of a nana. I cried ( something that doesn't happen very often) in my partners arms and just let it all out.

There is a very nice and old Hindi-Song (Indians love to Sing )
This is a very simple Translation, because Swim do not speak Hindi.

"Every moment Life is Changing,
next moment maybe Shadow,
maybe Rain or maybe Sunshine,
this moment "now" is never come back,
Do the best!!!
"The Happiness" will maybe not be there
in the next moment"!

Regards

[~EnChAnTeD_DrEaMz~]

Originally Posted by Spucky

There is a very nice and old Hindi-Song (Indians love to Sing )
This is a very simple Translation, because Swim do not speak Hindi.

"Every moment Life is Changing,
next moment maybe Shadow,
maybe Rain or maybe Sunshine,
this moment "now" is never come back,
Do the best!!!
"The Happiness" will maybe not be there
in the next moment"!

Regards

thanks Spucky i will rephrase that and try to use it in my down times.