Journal - Swims addiction and friends addiction.

[NotImportant]

This might be the wrong place to write this. But swim will try anyway. If this is not appropriate or wrong place or something, feel free to delete or move. And if so, Im sorry.

Swim has this friend who got swim into drugs, swim had never used drugs before this mate. Anyway, things is going really badly with the friend and he has become a full blown drug addict. He is always drugged up, never shows up to school, talks like a junkie you see on tv, tries to score drugs of swim, and always wants swim to come with him. The thing is, swim doesnt want to because the friend has changed alot. Especially while on drugs. This actually scares swim. Swim doesnt want to become what the friend is. But swim wants to be a good friend aswell, and doesnt know what to do. Swim have no idea what to do. Swim doesnt even want to do drugs now, because swim is seeing what is happening to his friend. What should swim do in this situation?

[Sushi]

1. What kind of drug/drugs is that person doing? To what kind of drug is swiy's friend addicted? If these are opiates (in Madlab's most humble opinion same applies to speed and coke) always refuse. Refuse. Refuse and refuse. Then refuse once more. Never succumb to peer pressure. Never succumb to that person pressure. It is possible he will give up on SWIY himself then.

2. If he doesn't give up on SWIY, active defence should be applied - "I'm busy", "No, I don't want to", "No, you can't come and visit me now", "No, I have no time, I meet with some guys and we are going for excursion", "No, they are cool folks and don't do (hard) drugs" and so on, on and on, no and no. It is quite possible he will be persistent. Some stubborn and obnoxious junkies really doesn't give a f*ck anymore and he will come uninvited at strange times of day and night. If SWIY allow him to approach, always keep SWIY's refusal shield up.
3.He will not quit unless he will want it himself. Something must change in him. SWIY will not persuade him to stop. Now SWIY should take care of swiyself and not allow him to drag SWIY down.

[NotImportant]

The friend has said himself that he wants to quit, but its too hard. He is into opiates (pretty heavy ones aswell) and speed. And pretty dependable on alcohol aswell.

The ideas over this post swim is doing now, but feels incredibly guilty. Swim wants to be a mate and not hurt his friend. But swim also know this has to stop.

The friend keeps wanting swim to come over and do drugs, and the friend will call swim boring and wasting swims life when swim says no. Swim can also hear that his friend is in a really bad place, and almost crying. It feels so bad to say no to him, swim thinks.

[madfan]

Swim really feels for swiy & for swiys friend as she knows how hard it is to stop taking any drugs - especially opiates.
Swim has spent many years using both opiates & speed & agrees with every word of sushis post.
Swim can honestly say that she`s never encouraged anyone to take opiates or speed & - in common with many junkies she`s known - will do her best to dissuade people from going down that road.However shes also known some who seem to want everyone they know to end up with a monkey on their back.
Swiys friend says swiy is wasting his life,but,& this must be obvious to everyone,its the friend who is wasting his life.
Swim knows its making swiy feel very sorry for his friend,& she knows he also feels guilty.But swim says swiy must not let these feelings influence him to such an extent that he gives in to his friend.
Swims sorry if this sounds unkind,but to be honest swim doesn`t think this person is being much of a friend & swiy is better off avoiding him as much as possible.

[Leftöver Crack]

i would be honest with him. don't be condescending and don't be supportive (unless he wants to quit), just make it short and sweet. like:

dude, you were my freind before but i don't recognize you now. i'm not going to invest my life into drugs. if you want help, i'll help you. if not, i need to look after myself and end this freindship.

otherwise it will turn into something bad.

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good advice & to the point