best drugs to help a girl "get there"

[mashed]

a bit embarrasing but swim has a problem,swim fiacie off two years has never once made swim orgasm,no matter what, swim just cant seem to cum during sex or foreplay.swim can cum fine with a good old rabbit though
is there any drugs that would help swim orgasm during sex?
thanks

[sandoz1943]

So very sad brought tears to my eyes to read your post. SWIM has found that she can "get there" with much ease on 5 MEO DIPT, 2CI, and MDMA but DXM and K makes "getting there" difficult and strange at times. Best of luck to your friend I hope she will "get there" someday soon. As you know once you have been someplace it much easier to find the next time. Has SWIM ever thought about letting her partner enjoy the scenery while she drives? Some people learn best from watching someone else do it.

[Benga]

related / similar / identical threads (some merging might be in order here...)

http://www.drugs-forum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=17696

http://www.drugs-forum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=5641

http://www.drugs-forum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=23453


and also

http://www.drugs-forum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=12753

http://www.drugs-forum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=34647

[shivakiva2112]

From experience I can say that this is not an entirely uncommon problem for women, or men for that matter.

They say (whoever they are) that an orgasm for women is 90% mental, which I take to mean that women need, aboveall, to be comfortable and relaxed.

It sounds as if you have a mental block and are keeping your guard up whilst in bed with your fiance, a couple of glasses of wine is known to help some women relax a bit more in bed...but other than that SWIShiva's experiences regarding drugs+sex is that they generally detract from the experience, though they have not had many problems achieving orgasm...quite the opposite in fact

Umm, the best advice I could give would be a nice MDMA session or two with your fiance, with zero emphasis on sex and 100% emphasis on empathy and communication, that maybe combined with some real deal therapy with a sex therapist with or without your hubby should be at least a good start.

Most importantly, don't be concerned about this stuff, worry makes the situation worse. Focus on the fact that you are capable of achieving orgasm, some women are not, even by themselves, so you are also capable of getting there with him.

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	Great post man! Seems to cover all the points.
	good dieas with the MDMA therapy
	Superb advice and spot on.

[Each Hit]

one of swim's former girlfriends required continuous stimulation of both the clitoris and the vagina in order to "get there." while she emphasized to swim that sex still felt great for her, it was very difficult for her to achieve orgasm that way (it happened twice in a year). the combination of oral and manual stimulation was by far the most reliable method of "getting her there."

perhaps swiy is similar in that her body requires specific stimulation. if she can pinpoint what it is that puts her over the top and communicate that to her fiance, it could be a good beginning. if that's impossible, there's always sex therapy.

good luck!

[Sky Walker]

Originally Posted by mashed

a bit embarrasing but swim has a problem,swim fiacie off two years has never once made swim orgasm,no matter what, swim just cant seem to cum during sex or foreplay.swim can cum fine with a good old rabbit though

You say swims partner hasn't 'made' swim cum but swim is able to climax fine when alone, when obviously comfortable. To me that seems like a trust/comfort issue, swim is physically able to cum but seems to have some mental block when it comes to sex.

Has swim ever been able to climax at the hands of any man?

Personally I wouldn't suggest drugs for this problem (though MDMA has great potential to assist in my suggestion), I'd suggest dropping the embarrassment and discussing openly with partner the things that go through swims mind when she is alone with the rabbit. Trust your man and you'll be able to cum.

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Good opinion

[rokman nash]

Drugs are not necessarily the answer. Have you ever tried the two finger cul-de -sac technique?If not send a message and i'll explain.It can/will make your girl a squirter also.

Good thoughts

[SmokeRings]

SWIM would have to agree with those who said drugs might not be your answer. SWIM is female and has the same issue, well sort of. SWIM no longer has the issue, because she's worked through it all, learned to be open and honest w/her partners and TELL THEM what feels good, how she likes it, what she likes, all that good stuff.

How old is this girl, has she always had this problem? Also, while vibrators ARE a girl's best friend, they aren't a boys best friend, quite the opposite, they are your worst enemy! They tend to numb the clit. Meaning, she's become accustom to the vibration and needs it, her clit has basically been desensitized to anything else. How often does she use her toy?

SWIM is single, and just recently (this weekend, YAY) found someone to play with, and could not climax, because she'd been using her toys way too much. They were also using meth, which is the SEX DRUG from hell, but it also makes it harder to get off. Three hours of meth sex was great, SWIM is still thinking about it and smiling. However, she is laying off the toys, so that she can have an amazing orgasm when they meet up again in a few days.

So, have her lay off the toys, that's step one for sure. Yes, a lot of women have this problem, SWIM included, it's not rare, SWIY is not necessarily doing anything wrong at all. SWIMs only questions would be about her age, your age, level of experience and how open the two of you are regarding sex. Everyone is different as far as what will take them to that plateau. SWIM always has open and direct converstaions with her lovers. Her new one was quite shocked, yet pleased at how direct she was. Of course being high on meth doesn't hurt, but she just point blank asked questions while in the middle of performing oral sex. She's learned that every guy is different, and while she quite enjoys giving a blow job, she likes to find out early what will make it happen quickly, for those times she's not in the mood to go at it for 30 minutes.

Open converstaion at this stage in your relationship should not be an issue, if it is, THAT is the problem. Two years together, it should have been talked about long ago!

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Good, honest Points! Trust is the Way

[cannabis-sam]

Sitting on his face for a while is probably, a good idea, not to boast, but SWIM has never failed to make a girl cum through oral sex. however in his experience for some woman this can take fucking ages, like 30-40-60 minutes commitment helps. Most women apperently can not orgasm through vaginal stimulation. Can SWIY orgasm through manual masturbation.

For this drugs aren't the answer and imagine wouldn't it be a pain in the arse if you could only orgasm with your partner under the infuence of drugs, once you've got it down sober it will be even better when you try it with drugs.

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good advice, one should be sober first.

[netto]

SWIM has found that weed makes sex 10 times better.. You become highly sensitive and each touch is amazing..

SWIMS orgasms when he smokes weed is incredible.. Where as a normal guys orgasm last only for a few seconds etc.. when he is high its extremely intense..

this is the same for SWIMS gf.. she actually shakes and cant control herself when she is high.. thats how intense her orgasm is..

[Homes]

Adderall. Swim has been on it 2 yrs. When the feeling 1st started 2nd or 3rd day on it, thought orgasm would happen if stimulated for 10 sec.'s. Googled this weird phenomenon and found that 1 person had similiar situation but it went away quickly (after becoming used to taking it). But that is not the case w/ 1 particular person. But this person actually takes 30min. alone to get off which is the way she 1st learned to orgasm or close to 1hr. w/ spouse. So don't know if it would work, I would just try this if I were you: If fiance can get there with her device alone, then she can most def. get there if you will give her o.s. and she uses it to stimulate her clit. while you go down lower (gently almost teasing unless of course she says harder) around her opening-not anus unless she wants you to AND u want too, but be sure not to go back to other spot cause it can spread bad germs. The best thing to do for the first time is make her comfortable by no lights or very dim (preferably candles), put lots of pillows under her so you don't get sore and tired as fast, put on some music to help her focus w/ no words just the instrumentals, be prepared for it to take as long as she needs and tell her you are there for as long as she wants, before you go down get her as turned on as possible with lots of kissing, rubbing, sweet talk, etc., tell her she can make as much or little noise as possible, try not to touch any other part of her body cause it will distract, find something to prop her legs up with too like 2 short stools or chairs so neither of you have to hold 'em, don't ask her to do anything except use her rabbit or whatever how she likes, if she gets noisy/screams/says "there" "don't stop" etc don't get rougher!!! just keep doing what you are doing (most guys want to get rough I guess cause they're excited! If your goal was for her to have an orgasm with you inside her she will have to use the rabbit thing during sex and you will have to last a loooooooong time! I'd suggest the o.s. first. I actually took my device and hooked it up to an old cell phone charger to save $$ on batteries since they die out after like 20min. The cell phone charger converts the 120v coming out of wall down to like 5.9 I think!? Cut the end off of cell phone charger, split the 2 wires, pull off the rubber, hook each one up to the battery pack + and the -
It's actually safer if you go to a Radio Shack type store and buy a switch, if you go in and tell them you want to convert your kids battery operated toy to a electronic toy to save on batteries, assuming you don't want to tell them what it is really for, they should be able to help you. Of course they're gonna say it won't work off 120v so you're gonna have to tell them you are converting it with a cell phone or whatever you have that you are using. They may think it won't be safe (someone did it one time with one and it got VERY hot at the switch-scary) and try to tell you it's not gonna work!?? Good luck! U may think this is defeating the purpose of YOU getting her off but I promise you will reallllly like it! And don't make her feel like you are mad she is having to use the device.

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Good idea about turning a battery powered toy into a plug-in