He calls it experimenting. What would you call my boyfriend's drug use?

[Evolution]

Ive been dating this guy for a while now...when I met him he was only an occasional smoker, and drinker. Which was ok since I have the same habits. But lately hes been really into trying new stuff. The experimenting part isnt whats upsetting me though...Ive tried to talk to him about it but when I do its like he thinks Im speaking another language...He seems to be driving at a really high speed with this whole experimenting thing...he isnt just trying one thing new at a time...hes doing things in combination...and he is getting completely fucked out of his mind everytime he does it. It seems completely destructive to me...Im fine with trying things but I think drugs are being used wrongly if you are getting smashed eveytime you use them. He hasnt done anything physically addictive yet but his usage is escalating and at an alarming rate. Is there a reason why he may be doing this? And what should I do? I dont think I can be in a relationship with him if this goes much further....has anyone else had any similar problems in a relationship? I would love to hear from a guy who has been told the same thing by his girlfriend to...it would help to hear from both sides

[The_Great_Sage]

Well I am a guy that has been in a simalar situation. I havehad many
girlfreinds and freinds have a problem with my habits when i escalated
to another level of drugs. I'm not claiming that i know exactly what
your going through but i get the jist. I my self have been increasing
the amount and the variety of drugsi am taking and doing.I have
been addicted to speed and anti-depressents and i have gotten over that
and now i can once again take drugs responsible. your boyfreind may be
doing this because he is bored and is only now getting the opurtunity
to do them. It could also be that he feels comfortable enough with his
life with the drugs he was doing befor that he felt he could step it up
a little and try some new ones. I am not a shrinkor anything so i dont
know. But about the thingthat he gets really tore up all the time, well
that is somewhat of a self control thing, it feels good to benge
sometimes.



sorry if i didnt help

peace

[dopefiend]

Well i've never had a girlfriend who had a problem with my drug use but
a close friend (we've been friends since birth) has and I know alot
about his situation. It seems to be that telling him to stop will only
lead him to distance himself from you and continue to use drugs in the
same way if not more frequently. The best advice i can give you is to
express your concern for his health and well being, allow him to
continue along his own path, and see if he stops. From what i've seen
nothing you can say will deter him from his drug use and becoming too
forceful will simply ruin what both of you have worked to build. If
this behavior is to continue and you don't condone it then the best
thing for both of you at that point would probably be to break it off.

Good luck and best wishes,

Jesse

[insanity]

my girlfriend used drugs with me and though it was fun,
it doesn't last and can cause bad relationship problems
etc. if she hadn't used drugs and i was using all those
drugs, im sure i'd eventually choose the drugs over her,
but thats just me. ur bf seems like me always wanting to
get fucked up beyond belief and pushing the limits. my
girlfriend was always just chillin taken it slow,
sometimes occasinal monkey madneess though.

[JBRONCFAN]

He's not happy about something and using the drugs to escape it
all. We all strive to get lightly enebriated and still be able to
enjoy life. When you get smashed frequently, he is having trouble
with something in his life. Past issues not resolved? Bad
break up from last girlfriend? Lost a love one is his family
recently? Is he severely underachieving in life?

[uqlfy]

Or maybe hes doing just what he said he is,experimenting. Its
when experimenting gets taken too far and you dont stop that real
problems begin. I know that no one wants to see someone they care about
hurt or sick, but once one of these experiments blows up in his face
then maybe he'll slow down. Try talking to him when he not high and is
just coming off a particulary nasty bender. Your point will be taken a
bit better I think.