Need help getting my girlfriend off cocaine

[Liamisworried]

I'm sorry this is my first post, but i'm desperate for help.

first some background
I have been with my girlfriend for close to 3 months now, we have always been very happy, despite the occasional ups and downs
shes the first girl I have been properly serious with, as in spending numerous nights a week together, spending a lot of our days together etc.

I love her very much, and I know I do.

on sunday she said she needed to tell me something.
today I finally got to see her and we spoke, she said on sunday a guy had kissed her. when I pryed deeper into it she said she only let him because she wasnt in control. this is when I discovered she had been using cocaine.

she used to use cocaine regularly a while ago (before I met her) and I have always told her how proud I am of her for getting off it whenever it was mentioned. but recently she has started hanging round with the guys that dragged her down in the first place again.
I have told her that it's not worth it, I've told her that I'm not sure how I feel about the subject and I keep reminding her just to be careful and be safe. I know these guys, and I know they will use her any opportunity they get.

I'm not sure how long it's been going on, she's been seeing these guys for about a week now, but it's getting more and more regular. I do not want her to get addicted again, I just want my girlfriend back.

I should be seeing her tomorrow, so any help would be greatly appreciated.
I am unsure whether I should just tell her to choose between me or the drugs. or whether I should just reassure her how much I love her, and tell her that I don't like what she's doing to herself and I want to help.

I just don't know what to do anymore, it's tearing me up, but I don't want to break up with her because of it, because she is a lovely person, and when things are going right we have the best times ever. she has shown me what love really is and I just want my old girlfriend back

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great question

[chillinwill]

My best advice would be to sit down and talk with her and truely express how you feel. Tell her everything you just said in your post and that you want her back and don't approve of what she's doing. If she really cares about you, she will respect what you have to say and then make a decision based on that. If she continues to use cocaine and hang out with the bad influences, then I would have to say that you have to move on with your life as she as other interests in mind

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thanks

[Liamisworried]

chillinwill,

It's nice to see that i'm in the right frame of mind.

I was thinking this, basically offer her the ultimatum of me or drugs. and if she chooses me, then I'm there to help her through it, if she helps herself

[chillinwill]

Exactly. She is the one who needs to make the decision whether or not she wants to get using cocaine. If she decides she wants to quit, be supportive and help her as much as you can but if she decides that she wants to keep having fun and using cocaine, I would say that you have to leave her until she decides she doesn't want any part of that anymore

[Liamisworried]

chillinwill,

fair enough
I don't want to be with a girl who's ruining her life again with this crap.
as if it's not been hard enough getting this relationship working (remember, this is the first girl i've been serious with) she has to complicate things with this

the bottom line: if she loves me, she will realise what she's doing and choose to let me help her, yes?

[chillinwill]

Yes and she will also realize that you are more important and mean more to her than the drug and if she needs help coming off the drug, that you will be there fully supportive for her whenever she's ready to stop using cocaine

[Liamisworried]

chillinwill,

thats my hope anyway.
after we spoke today, we parted ways so she could go see her mum and go out with the guy who's got her back onto cocaine, I didnt stop her because I didnt want things to go pear shaped again.

she hasnt texted all day, until now (1am) when she decided to tell me something totally irrelevant.

i hope she sees sense when I offer the ultimatum tomorrow.
as much as I hate what she's doing to herself, the fact is that I love this girl, and I would do anything to stay with her

[BrainMelt]

Sorry but she's probably banging these guys who are hooking it up with the snow. 3 months isn't long at all. Perhaps you don't know her as well as you thought you did. She said she kissed a guy cuz she wasn't in control. Sounds like bs. Cocaine doesn't put you out of control of your actions like that. Have a talk with her and don't let your mind be clouded by "love".

[Liamisworried]

BrainMelt,

i know they both want her.
one of them kissed her on sunday she says, i bet it did go further, despite her promising me it was just a kiss.

I did know her, until she started hanging round with them guys again.
I swear if i see them in the street I'll be kicking them into the gutter where they belong