A 'kinky' Holiday!?

[sweetsugar]

Swim and her partner are planning a trip to Amterdam, whilst acting out his ultimate fantasy. The plan is to head to the redlight district(?) They'll no doubt be taking drugs of all kinds, but kinda like to be straight for this experience. swims never been, but heard loads about it. check out whats on offer and have a threesome basicly! (with some added extras , no need to go into detail)Swims never been with a woman and swims partner is over the moon that she's willing to do this. Althoough swim is willing, shes terribly nervous. -about the before, during and after! lol. The last 2 moreso.
Any swiys had the pleasure of doing this or of the like? Oh, probably should add it were swims idea to act out some fantasies ~ why the hell not, the couple have been together many years, but yea the threesome?

[old hippie 56]

Be sure your relationship can handle the extra load.

[sweetsugar]

swims relationship has been strong enough to last 8 years, and through many downs & struggles. Lifes too short, im swims opinion, one should if they feel the need, experience as much as poss - in a good way of course! Its just sex at the end of the day, right?

[kaczynski]

Just relax and try to feel natural? Haha I don't really know what to say without sounding like a porn director

[EntheogenicTruth]

lol swim has done this a couple of times but seeing as he is male he cannot really give any information as to the female perspective on it. swim would suggest that you remember that if he stayed with you for 8 years then he probably has some other reason apart from sex for being with you whether you define that as love, psychological attachment or whatever im sure that fulfilling fantasies like this are healthy if you approach them with from the right perspective.

[sweetsugar]

thnx

[old hippie 56]

Be careful that what happen to a close friend of swim doesn't happen to you. Her and her husband tried a three way with another woman, she found out that she likes women alot better than men. But, everybody to their own.

[Pretend_you_dont_see_Her]

SWIM reckons she could only handle a threesome if she wasn't attached to any guys involved, but that's just her personally.. For some reason girls are a different matter.

[sweetsugar]

swim says it'll be 2 gals 1 guy.

[Pretend_you_dont_see_Her]

Originally Posted by sweetsugar

swim says it'll be 2 gals 1 guy.

Aha, see SWIM knows itd be a bad idea if she was involved with the guy, but if she was only involved with the girl, she would probably do it

[moda00]

Swim's had her share of threesomes.. good stuff. I guess she's never done it where she'd been dating the guy.. she's done it either in the context of semi-dating (fuck buddies, friends with benefits, etc. with the guy) and we picked the second girl together or it was a friend of mine that we had mutual interest in, and everyone was pretty equally into it.. she's also been the "third girl" for such male-female-female 3-somes for a few dating or married couples, and that always worked really well too.. In your case, sounds like the relationship is strong and long term, and both parties are excited about it.. Methinks traveling and seeing a pro in the redlight area is the absolute best option to first explore this without the potential awkwardness of one of you getting attached- if it were ongoing or more casual- or the awkwardness that could follow if it involved a personal friend or whatnot.. this seems like the ideal way to go about it, just make sure you both have some input.

My one piece of advice is to make sure you are equally excited about it- that you aren't doing it just to please your man or because you feel pressured. But if you are psyched (and of course a little nervous, that is normal!! I know swim was pacing around like crazy, freaking out, before her first threesome, but it went very well and all was good) then you are good to go! Just be sure that you have communicated beforehand about what you both want to get out of it and what you both like. My one other suggestion is that for some people it may be best to experiment with another girl alone before making it a menage e trois affair, but then again for some it would be even more awkward, and having the bf there may be a way to ease into it better- just be sure if it isn't working you can say that, as can any other party involved. That everyone is comfortable getting involved, and any boundaries or whatnot are discussed prior to the event. But my bet is that it will be a great experience

[notts.pirate]

SWIY should go for it, SWIM and his partner have discussed the possibilities and decided they are going to act out each others dirtiest/darkest/kinkyiest fantasies

its better to have tried it and hated it then wondered 'what if'

[radiometer]

Originally Posted by notts.pirate

SWIY should go for it, SWIM and his partner have discussed the possibilities and decided they are going to act out each others dirtiest/darkest/kinkyiest fantasies

its better to have tried it and hated it then wondered 'what if'

I've found that fantasy fulfillment more often than not leads to disappointment, unfortunately. I guess it depends on several factors, and there's really no way to know ahead of time.

[sweetsugar]

A quick update... ( no, the little ole kinky holiday hasnt of yet been )


Swims partner read this:

Originally Posted by old hippie 56

Be careful that what happen to a close friend of swim doesn't happen to you. Her and her husband tried a three way with another woman, she found out that she likes women alot better than men. But, everybody to their own.

And has decided to put the holiday off for a bit (for an extra bit of thought) He has NOTHING to worry about.. so they're equally obviously nervous about the whole thing