What should I do about my girlfriends occasional cocaine use. I want her to stop.

[amoremio]

hello, im new to this forums, i'm not sure what SWIM means but i will refer to her as SWIM,

I recently moved to a different country, i've been dating swim for 7 months and we love each other very much. swim tried cocaine 4 days after i moved and lied to me about doing it for about 3 weeks. Swim not only tried it, but bought 3 or 4 grams with a friend. When i found out, swim still denied but later confessed everything. Now swim tells me she will never do it again without telling me, and doesnt want to put our relationship in jeopardy. (The lying part really got to me.)

My curiousity is, since i already confronted swim about it, and we've turned that chapter of our lives; i dont really feel like asking specific details to swim anymore.

Swim tells me she enjoyed the high very much, but since the incident and the lying i've lost some trust on swim; im curious to know if she can be trusted since the avaiability of coke is very easy in the country she lives in, she's been forgetting alot of things recently and i want to know how many lines, swim was a first timer would have done per time she tried it. 3grams is roughly 25-30 lines for a first timer? Would it be easy for her to stop doing it if the relationship is in jeopardy or is the high so good she would do it behind my back without me knowing and just stop while we're together? Honesty is the most impotant thing in the relationship and i dont want to deal with lack of trust in a long distance, we really love each other very much and plan to spend 2 months together in the summer, would an intensive blood test show any trace of coke or E?

Please help, im just trying to get into the mind of a first timer and to find out if the urges for the high would be stronger then the relationship. And if swim means what she said; that she will stop and not do it again.

This is a very confusing question and sorry for maybe phrasing it wrong, if you have any questions about the situation to make it easier to answer, please post and i will try my best to facilitate.

ty so much.
-amo

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