Cocaine: we say no more! but do it again!

[audiolee]

SWIM said....

me and my girlfreind have been taking cocaine at the weekend for about the last 4 years we started with a gram a week now we do 2 maybe 3.

for the last year we have been trying to stop we dont want to do it any more, we have a beutiful baby girl a nice house and good jobs and i dont think our habit cud get worse but it scares me when i think what if.....

we really want to stop now but finding it difficult to

we dont crave for it in the week at work. its when it gets to friday night its like having the devil on one side saying "do it do it" and an angel on the other sayin "no no you dont want it" but the devil always wins

can anyone give us some advice

thanks

[dogzz]

It's more than just an addiction to coke. We also get addicted to the "rituals" of drug use. For four years swiy ( might want to read forum rules ) has done this every weekend, in a sense hardwiring your brain to follow that as a pattern. The pleasure and reward centers are pre-programed now to include coke as a part of your "the weekend is here, time to relax and have some fun"

There is no easy solution other than just stop getting more and doing it. Put an extra effort in to doing things enjoyable without using. Seems to swim if swiy goes all week without using or feeling a need to use. It's more in swiy's head than a physical addiction. Swim just read a great comment about no longer using .

One can't just stop using and wait to feel better. One has to go after it, put an effort into feeling better, just as one had to actively go out and get their drugs...

So put some work into rewiring that brain of swiy's start creating new pathways that tell the brain weekends are great without using, better yet, leave the "using" part completely out of the equation. Swiy has a baby girl? should be working on that being what swiy's weekends are all about. It's gonna feel like the blink of an eye, and that lil baby is going to be all grown, havin babies of her own. best wishes

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[azrael2600]

swim agrees with dogzz. swim here in the states has seen many bad/ sad things happen to people i.e social sevices taking the kids away because of parental drug use (i.e parents getting caught possesion charges) with swim also agrees that even the ritual of using drugs can be addictive. In swim's eyes their is no real answere than complete abstinence. but swim is not swiy. swim wishes you the best of luck with swiy baby and hopes that swiy can find another outlet or some sort release.

[imyourlittlebare]

seek help. it couldnt hurt. maybe just one of you at a time secretly? I think they have a migraine medicine that prevents you from feeling pleasure of coke. or theres always antipsychotics. those stop you from feeling it lol. this seems far fetched but since you seem like your out of options and you dont wanna lose your baby and you cant stop on your own maybe thats it?

[audiolee]

dogzz,

yeh swiy thinks the ritual thing maybe the problem. swiy has not been just using coke though for the last 4 years, since swiy was 17 to 28 swiy (now 31) has been using xtc, amphetamine & maujuana at the weekend swiy has stoped all them now, but stuck now with a coke habit.

swiy did stop for 3 months early this year but started again and was really gutted about it. swiy will stop again but swiy thinks can he be stong enough not to use again.......swiy doesnt know : (

swiy feels uneasy about gettin help swiy thinks "am i really that bad do i really need help" maybe swiy does : (

[Fight Club]

Originally Posted by audiolee

. . . i dont think our habit cud get worse but it scares me when i think what if.....
. . . like having the devil on one side saying "do it do it" and an angel on the other sayin "no no you dont want it" but the devil always wins

Unfortunately, it can and does get worse. Each weekend that goes by will continue to reinforce that habit, and somewhere down the road both the quantity and frequency of use will most likely increase.

The good news is that you recognize that SWIY has a problem before it has caused many of the problems that cocaine addiction can cause over time, and if SWIYs' quit now, their child might never have to experience the pain that drug addiction can cause in families.

Quitting is not easy, but as others have said, you need to start by breaking the pattern. Why not go camping, or travel to a place where you have no connects for a few weekends? That would be a good start.

AA and NA work for some people as well. Rehab is another option to consider if less extreme measures don't work.

The devil and angel you refer to is a very common sensation in addicts attempting to recover. It really is different parts of your brain sending conflicting signals; your rational cerebellum telling you that you have a problem and need to quit; the pleasure center in your cerebral cortex "driving" you to get high. In order to change, you must train your cerebellum to take control, and not let your instinctual pleasure center take charge.

One last thing. Unless you opt for rehab, I think trying to quit together would be best. I have many friends in recovery that are couples that have quit together. Trying to kick the habit while your mate is still getting high seldom works.

FC

[beentheredonethatagain]

For cocaine heres what worked for somebody I know from a dream.
You have heard of the guilt that some people feel when they did that darn stuff? well that is the key , swiy has to learn to hate it. The cola dosent controll you it isnt that real, and the comedown and the money it takes leaves a real messed up feeling and a messed up reality behind? Learn to hate it , dont remember just that jolt of energy think it thru, and let that empty , ugly , sad feeling be just what you think of everytime the other part of swiy dreams those lies.

I still remember how it gets good for a minute or two , then the other side the down side lasts longer and its the bad side that reminds me how much I hate it and wont enjoy it .

swiy and spouse must not allow the badness to rob you of your happiness raising your baby. if you must just tell swiy you can do as much of the ola once the child is in college

[audiolee]

well its friday now and swim has made arrangements to do somthing different tonight so swim cannot do wat he shud not do.
swim is hoping to keep this up swim will see : )
thanks for advice peeps will keep you posted here to see how swim gets on

[audiolee]

well swim has managed to get through the 1st weekend without using : )

[beentheredonethatagain]

swia can do it, this feeling the coke produces is not a real deal, I mean it feels good for a very short peroid, the come down is real.

Sadly I know familiys who have lost custody of their children do to a bad habit.

[audiolee]

yes your right swim says the comedown is to real.. it eats swim up when coming back round to normality swim he has got to hate it he tells himself..... swim is going to try hard to stay positive and get through the next weekend : )

[tinytom]

good job mate stay strong its a substance you can beat.

swim's girl is becoming addicted to coke. he can tell, swim and her do different drugs quite often,swim has tried coke but thinks it is best to leave it were it is. as he has only known her for a short period he dosent want to become too pushy But he knows the damage ching is doing to her. he will wait till he sees how he feels about her before makeing a move.

anyway hope you are still clean bro!

[sweetsweetmary]

Swim has had Cocaine issues. The way swim quit was cut all ties to dealers. SWIM deleted numbers out of SWIM's phone. SWIM found if there is no supply, then demand doesn't matter. Take a drastic step, stay busy during times, don't drink alcohol or do things that lower inhibitions, and Just keep a positive mind set. Swim thinks the best part about quitting is hindsight, and it is not that tough to quit. Good luck.

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[audiolee]

sweetsweetmary

ive tried deleting phone numbers out of my phone time and time again it dosent work there is always a way if swim wants to get it....once that feeling gets a hold of you somtimes nothing gets in your way....i think its about doing somthing different when u know you are going to feel like that.

i have got though my second week now because of pushing myself to do somthing different,,,,having people around you who dont use when u feel the urge really helps.... i must continue this way i think ----: )

[Fight Club]

If cravings get really bad, NIK has found that the old AA adage "one day at a time" works quite well. No mater how bad NIK feels, and when he wants to get high in the worst way, he gets his ass home (or anyplace safe) and stays there until its bed time. He commits to himself that he will not get high today; maybe tomorrow.

When tomorrow comes, he is rested, relaxed, has a nice breakfast, and gets on with his day, usually free of the obsession that plagued him 24 hours previously.

FC