Social - Relationships while on coke???

[CABS205]

Hey,


Sorry, if you read something like this or if it's too long...but, it's just bugging me...


Has anyone out there, been honest with a family member, girlfriend, boyfriend, friends, etc and told them that you were using coke....And did that affect your relationship?*


I've been clean off and on for the past 2 weeks.* BUT, the thing is I lost a really important relationship.*


She felt betrayed...but, I don't get it.* Seriously....How would someone feel betrayed, if I'm using.* Her exact quote was "You picked a drug over me."*


Is it just because I'm clueless or what.* I seriously didn't see me using, actually affect our relationship.*
Does anyone notice the difference in your relationships, when you're doing drugs? Or is it just me???


Any suggestions????* Edited by: BA

[RipperChick]

Cocaine ruins close relationships..especially if one person doesn't do it.


My bf and I were on the brink of splitting up cuz we were both doing coke on the regular and were ALWAYS fighting. WE both quit and within a week our relationship was GREATLY improved.





Coke makes you stop feeling..and having ANY kind of relationship while into coke is difficult.





do yourself a favor and STAY clean..

[CABS205]

Yeah, that's what I thought. I guess drugs mess up relationships, even if both people do it...thanks!

[Maxamillion]

I am from a family of cokeheads, you could say. In every marriage/relationship I have obsrved that had coke in the mix there were problems, including my own personal relationships. It can be an impossible thing to keep under control for many people. After me and my old girlfriend quit coke together I started back for a short time....I confessed...and this was held over my head for the next few years. I'm not telling you to lie....but being honest in this situation did not "help" my relationship to say to least. If you want to quit, then quit......occupy your time doing other things- working on the relationship type things. If you get caught up in a jam and he/she catches you FUCKING UP......thats when things get really bad....but you can't get caught in the truth on the other hand. muchluck

[CABS205]

Yeah, that's true...My friends would always tell me, "What happens, if you have all your coke out and you just did a line...And all of a sudden, the doorbell rings, and it's her. How are you going to hide the fact, that you didn't quit." Which I think about a lot. So I haven't done it in awhile, atleast to me. I did slip. Once....And I'm still trying....

[linemup]

I'm married and my wife knows and has no problem with it. Although it hasnt really started to affect our life yet, but I see that coming. She says she will be by my side no matter what, but we all know what drugs bring and eventually they will destroy even the best relationship.

[CABS205]

Yeah, see your wife is okay with drugs. My ex wasn't. SHE HATED EVERYTHING about it.....I hate drugs, but I love it...F**ks up GREAT relationships...

[linemup]

Honestly, I made my wife ok with it. My mom left my dad when I was 2 because of him using drugs and my wife knows I hate my mother because of that. She told me one night 'Im not goingleave you like your mom did your dad, just because of drugs'


But again, she hasnt experienced the pain and shit yet (and hopefully never will). It's easy for someone to be supportive of something they know nothing about, or that hasnt affected them in a negative way. At the same time, its easy for people who know nothing about drugs to look at them in the worst possible light. You can thank our brainwashing government for that though. After all these are the same assholes that posted ads back in the day saying pot turned young men into devil worshipers. These are also the same assholes that toss addicts in jail for possesion, yet they have a "legal" version of the drug that offers the same high. They just don't like competion.





Shit am i off topic yet? I am steady rambling..... being up for 4 days will dot hat to ya.