No more kissing.

[Sky Walker]

This really really sucks, sadly, I don't enjoy kissing my girlfriend anymore. In a way it's kind of devastating as you can't really have good sex without good kissing and in turn IMO can't really have a good relationship either. What the hell like! Seriously this is fucked, this girl was my first proper girlfriend, the first and only person I've had sex with, my first and only love. I used to love laying kissing her, for hours at times, now though (over three years later) I don't get any pleasure from it at all, sometimes it's even a bit of a turn off and can become annoying when she's persistent, is this anywhere near normal? I assume not although I don't really know as this is the only real relationship I've ever been in.
Over time is this thing just bound to happen? Or do people who are really in love carry on enjoying their kissing just as they first did? Is there anyone else out there that doesn't enjoy kissing their girlfriend/boyfriend? Or is the answer to that question a no, due to the fact that most would exit said relationship if they ever found themselves turned off by their partners tongue . Gee, maybe I'm just fucked in the head, I do sometimes question why I'm still in this relationship but I always come back to the same conclusion, I know for a fact that I'll never find a girl as cool as she is or who gets me more than she does plus she's hot as and treats me like a friggin' king, I hate the creeping thought that I might just be using her to simply satisfy my sexual desires and boost my ego, I really don't wanna be that kinda guy. I don't want to live a life without kissing either, without enjoying kissing, is this likely to be directly linked to this one girl or am I now permanently fucked never to enjoy kissing again?

Any comments, opinions or suggestions are anticipated and appreciated.

[Trebor]

I suggest you try to do things with her, be adventurous.

[Sky Walker]

Originally Posted by Trebor

I suggest you try to do things with her, be adventurous.

Man, it's been a three year long advenure, we've pretty much done everything we can do. Anyway that's beside the point, it's the kissing not the sex.

[Trebor]

I mean exeriment with kissing, upside down, horizontally, you know...

[Mona Lisa]

Many long term relationships go stale but people in said relationships may choose to stay together for the kids or economic reasons. This was particularly true with our grandparent's generation who rarely divorced...

From my own experience and of others around me (who are being honest with me), it would seem that romance and sex are very important at the early stages but that it becomes less important over time. Practical issues end up taking precedence, sadly.

[Nature Boy]

SWIM doesn't necessarily find kissing particularly pleasant. It's far from unenjoyable but he sees it as more of a means to an end and imagines that kissing is way more of a turn-on for women rather than it would be for men. Then again it could easily be down to the individual regardless of sex. SWIY's case doesn't seem all that ridiculous based on that.

[Lunar Loops]

Ahhh now nature boy, no better prelude, but you are probably right, it is probably dependent upon the individual. I think it may well be that sky walker has just become bored with his current partner. It happens...time and time again it happens......the chase, the playground years and then the familiarity, that not so much breeds contempt as apathy. However, I believe there is hope and it's just a question of finding that special partner....now back to the current job in hand.

[Forthesevenlakes]

has anything else in the relationship been stagnating for young sky walker? perhaps the kissing boredom is just one symptom of a larger need for novelty or change in the relationship. it may not be that you're bored with your partner per se, but that you're bored with certain predictable aspects of the relationship. you may want to take a look at what things have not changed in a while, and if they are things you might like to see be done differently. really it may just be that you need adventure in some other aspect of your relationship or life, and by giving yourself that, the interest in kissing will return.

it could be like shroomonger says, that you're bored with the partner, but i prefer to think it may be something less dire than that. definitely try varying some things in the relationship before giving up on it entirely.

[Trebor]

Right, Sky Walker, do you like this girl?

[London_Bloke]

I'm finding myself in agreement with Forthesevenlakes here - and what occurs to me is that what you're describing isn't a disease, it's a symptom. As in "this relationship is ill." But then, I tend to view relationship issues such as infidelity the same way. In and of itself, infidelity is not the problem in a (supposedly) monogamous relationship, it's a symptom of a deeper problem. It not that someone fucked around, it a question of why did someone feel the need to fuck around. Seems to me, you're in the same sort of quandary. If you care, find a counselor. If you don't, it's time to move on. I don't mean to make this sound simple or easy - far from it. But the question really is basic - do you care enough to invest some more effort in finding out what's ailing your relationship?

[zera]

A lot of guys don't like foreplay, and really only tolerate it for sex. It's not that uncommon.

[Thirdedge]

Originally Posted by zera

A lot of guys don't like foreplay, and really only tolerate it for sex. It's not that uncommon.

Have to agree Im afraid. If your still into your partner (other than the kissing) then everything probably totally normal. The cold reality is foreplay (other than a blowjob of course) is really more for the girl. They take time to warm up and need to feel loved and wanted, where as most guys would happily just skip straight to penetration.

Swim smokes a lot of weed most evenings, so his mouth is often too dry to be bothered kissing, but he makes sure he makes the effort sometimes just to keep her happy. But it doesn,t have to be a marathon session every time.

[_caesar_]

I dont think that the passion of kissing lasts to long in a relationship. Dont take me wrong I love a kiss but I think it feels so nice because its some kind of subconscience precursor to filthy sex.

Its a pity though