Culture - Do you talk with your parents about drugs?

[dkmonk]

A story my friend sent me through email.

"My dad told me a few times when I was young before I smoked that he used to, but stopped because it isn't what a responsible person does who has a kid and he didn't like feeling out of control. I always found that admirable.

My mom and step dad never, but they might make comments about how low lifes use drugs if it came on T.V.

My parents learned I smoked pot when I was 12 (surprisingly my friends older brother 18 or 19 sold it to us. There was a big meeting with my dad, mom, step dad, and step mom, almost like an intervention. I was so scared and they just grilled me on how dissapointed they were and how it would ruin my life, but my step dad didn't say much. My mom and step mom were crying profusely. They acted like I murdered somebody, and told me that I will amount to nothing if I do smoke pot.

They called my friend and told his parents, because the way the found out was through our yahoo chat log that my mom had hacked. His parents were not upset at all and didn't say much. He hated me for it still, because my mom threatened to bring the law to get his brother for selling it to me.

He was my best friend and the coolest kid in school, and now he only made fun of me and called me a snitch every chance he got. I hated life so much, because friends were everything to me, and now I was an outcast.

I ended up hating my parents too, and did everything I could to find a way to get high or drunk to undermine their rules.

Eventually I found out my step dad smoked weed when I was 19 or 20, and understood why he never got mad that much for me doing it and he had a temper. I also knew why I found my bowl in my parents closet a year after it being confiscated. We smoked a bowl together on Christmas the year before last, and it was really cool. I had so much more respect for him, and he cried because it was such a bonding moment. That was the only time we smoked together, and he refused to ever get me his amazing dank he had." - my friend

[usually0]

Parents and drugs are so weird. I have a casual relationship with my parents when it comes to drugs. They know I smoke weed often and have done shrooms and salvia, but at the same time they don't like that I use.

I tell them when I smoke up and it's very honest, but they always blab about how I shouldn't do it. I guess parents are like that, it's life. I think i'd want a totally honest relationship with my kids, loving and not superficial.

[syntheticdave]

Swim has a pretty decent relationship with his parents. When they found out he smoked that relationship went down hill pretty fast and has never been the same since. Swim couldn't imagine what his parents would do if they found out about his other drug use (amphetamines/research chemicals). Swim would probably be looking for a new place to live.

[Doctor Who]

When AFOAF was growing up, his Dad ( who has gone on to that happy hunting ground in the sky ) was an Outlaw Biker in the early 1960's, so the "Old Man" was Smokin' Pot, Tripping on Acid, Snorting Crystal & flying down the road on his Harley way back in the day. Needles to say, there was always various kinds of "dope" floating around. His advice was... "Smoking Pot & Drinking Beer together is like pissing in the wind".
( AFOAF's Mom of course, was Against Drugs, Unless Prescribed by a Doctor! )

PEACE!

[VagabondWraith]

Never met my father. My mother I talk to about them; she knows I smoke and supports MMJ use and thinks it should be legalized. She knows I've done quite a few other things (but I don't talk about it present tense) but she's against doping herself up in any way, shape, or form outside of drinking coffee and eating chocolate.

[The_Joker]

My daughter is 18 and a senior in high school. We have talked a little about drugs, she is not really a big fan of drugs. She might have smoked weed a few times, and she drinks occasionally, but that's about it. She is vaguely aware that I have a fair amount of drug experience but has not really asked about it. If she wants to know though, i will tell her anything, because i have experienced a whole lot of drugs in this life and some of it wasnt the best experiences. I would rather tell her than have her have to go through some of it.

I HAVE told her before that I would actually prefer her smoking pot over drinking, not that I am in approval of her doing either, but i just feel potheads tend to get in less trouble.

Our son is 20 and going through this thing where he knows everything. He is drinking all the time and it has led to problems for him, several wrecks and injuries and school problems. I have tried to talk with him about it but he lies and will not listen. I do hope he grows out of it soon. I could never talk to my son about drugs at this point in his life, because he is very against drugs and hates anyone who does them. He will not accept that alcohol is a drug. If he EVER found out I had done drugs....oh my GOD. He HATES potheads, I cant imagine him finding out mom has done every drug pretty much, except maybe PCP.

Me and my daughter just seem to click better than me and my son do right now, and I sure hope he grows out of this spell. It is like we are the exact opposites. All he wants to do is drink, play country music, and go to the rodeo and wear a big belt buckle. He makes fun of me, saying all the stuff I like is "stupid". Now when he was really little we were two peas in a pod. I do like his girlfriend he has had for a few months now, she is quiet and shy and calm but she doesnt take any shit off him, and if he gets smart or sassy with anyone, she is right up his ass about it. That is what he needs. I hope they stick together cause I think i wouldnt mind having her for a daughter in law. LOL

Ive always tried to talk to my kids about delicate things the best I could, they sure didnt like when i talked to them about sex!

[WarmCoCo]

I'm legally an adult who still sometimes act like a teen, and YES

[Relapse_Rollercoaster]

Family dynamic plays a signifigant role in the viewpoint of the child in the family new to drug and alcohol exposure. Every case and diagnoses is unique to the individuals circumstances and resources.

My family tried to be slick, but not slick enough. My momma had issues with alcohol, pot, pills, and partying in general. This led to disagreements among my parents that fueled the fire and went all night. My paternal grandparents are non everything! All throughout life they were/are above the influence. My maternal side has substance abuse too rampent to fully cover. It has spanned over decades and included many different members.

Most notably grandpa= pot & alcohol, Uncle =same + amphetamine, cocaine, X, opiates, benzos....etc., grandma alcohol only. My father wasn't perfection, but was military, so after 1985 drinking only .

My mom and I knew of eachother, but didn't share until I was out of her and my dads home. After 18 I shared some very special moments with my gpa, unc, and mom. 3 generations including me. Those are memories I am thankful for.

I was resentful as a child at the insult to my inteligence. The inscense burning, hiding in the shed, and lying about the smell pissed me off, even at 8 yrs old.

When my son turned 12 last year I began being pretty candid with him about drugs and answereing questions for him. I will share appropriate helpfull stories with him and have been lucky thus far and he hasn't questioned me, smelt me, or noticed anythimg different than I have discussed when he asks. I want him to understand the issue and be curious, as well as give him all sides of and struggles that can arrise as a result of use without making it a road to doom and gloom....