Parents of addict enable

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What to do when parents enable and won't listen to reason.He'll never hit rock bottom as long as they(his parents) reward him.Father takes him to Atlantic City NJ to gamble three days after addict walks out of rehab He can do whatever he wants and they continue to bail him out of trouble and shelter him from the full force of his storm They talk "big" but they never fall through with their threats.What does one do when that happens and they won't/don't "get it" What is thier problem???? Don't they get it that as long as they allow him a roof,food, and to get away with stealing their money,wiring him money when he's out and runs out of gas,etc... and them paying to get his truck out of impound. I know I have to "step down" and try not to worry about the fast grave they are "helping" him get to. Urggggg... it is so frustrating! By the way this is a 37 yr old man not a teenager nor young adult.
PS Atiy have any take on the effects of having him put in involuntary? As his wife I could but I think that would just backfire ?? Besides,get swim too emotionally involved when I am trying(forcing)swim to disconnect for own safety and sanity.I am curious as to the feelings and thoughts that atiy would feel (or did have this done)
Atiy in the eastern NC area know of any good support groups for swim? plenty of AA but hard to find NA for loved ones of...