My mom, a "codependant" alcoholic?

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My mom wants to stop drinking, but is physically addicted, and she says
she's "codependant", meaning that it doesn't matter what it is, she
just needs something to get high off of, and right now it's alcohol.
I'm not sure if she's using "codependant" in the right way, I don't
really know what it is and google didn't really help.



But anyway... she's thinking about going back to pot. Back when she
smoked pot (when I was about 3-5 years old), she didn't drink nearly as
much, was much happier with life, and that's also the period of my life
that she spent the most time with me. She only quit because she got
tired of all the "paraphernalia"... like cleaning pipes and bongs and
stuff. But anyway... I'd much rather have her smoke pot than drink.
When she drinks, she gets completely... dumb. There's been a couple
times that she's been really drunk and she was flipping through the
phonebook, looking for the number to alcoholics anonymous. I don't want
her to go through any rehab thing, and neither does she.



Anyway, lately since my plants are two and a half weeks into flowering
and she's been looking at them... she's been talking more and more
about going back to pot. I don't have a problem with that. Pot isn't
going to cause liver and brain damage like alcohol will. Money wont be
a problem, since in a few months here I plan on having a good SoG going
and I'll give her weed for free... if it will make her more happy with
herself and stop drinking.



Anyway, what do you think of this? Has anyone here heard of
"codependancy"? And do you think it's a good idea to get her back on
pot to quit alcohol? I remember her when she smoked pot. She was always
happy and calm. When she drinks, she gets sad and angry.



As far as alcohol withdrawls go, I've been thinking about giving her
some Xanax. She says the most noticable withdrawl she gets is "the
shakes", which I know Xanax would work for. Alcohol withdrawls can be
dangerous, and in some cases fatal (from what I've heard).



Any help would be appreciated. Especially someone who's quit alcohol
before... or a link to a site that talks about alcohol withdrawls,
codependency, etc.