I would not suggest chemicals to help you out personally, but if you must, I'll speak honestly:
I don't want to encourage this but when I lost my virginity at 17, drinking did indeed help with both building up my courage and kept me from "jumping the gun," so to speak.
Other people have told me drinking too much gives them "whiskey dick," though I've never experienced that myself.
But the fact is no matter what you're going to be somewhat nervous/excited over your first time, as expected. And no matter what, your first time you're probably not going to rock her world, though that's not to say it won't be an exciting and good experience for the both of you. Like anything else, you get better the more you do it obviously, lol.
When it comes to the first time having sex, communication and understanding are the most important things, not what chemicals you ingested.
I will say though to this day I will admit alcohol
- when it comes to the first time with a new girl you just met, especially if they're like really, really attractive and it's one of those "I can't believe this is actually happening
" moments - it can sometimes
be a sexual performance enhancer (calms your nerves, boosts your ego), given you don't get sloshed.
Also, while substances effect everyone different, SWIM
would not suggest Xanax
. While SWIM said alcohol will make you feel like Don Juan and well, "keep you in the game" if taken in moderate amounts, Xanax won't give you an ego boost and the sedative effects might keep you from cumming all together. But that's just a subjective opinion.
Again, not encouraging this at all personally, but SWIM has also said amphetamines are a great sexual performance enhancer as in the short run it boosts energy, libido, stamina, mood, self-esteem and physical and mental performance (though combining it with alcohol is risky, and not only to your health. While it going all night sounds great, in reality more than an hour and you're just asking for soreness and chaffing, lol, a definite turn off.)
Save yourself the trouble of all the risks of alcohol and drug
use. Do you really think you NEED to have a drink or a drug to have sex? You're 18 not 70. This is just the first time, and it's not as big a deal as you think. You're going to be having sex your whole life.
There are better ways, and the best advice I have is this.
1) Communicate with your partner. Address each other needs. They're likely to be more understanding than you think.
2) If it's someone you care about and they care about you, they're most likely just as nervous as you are.
3) Lol, you can "practice" before the big game, if you know what I mean.
Those 3 things will help you more than any chemical.