What to do? Using cocaine but friends tell me to stop.

[Msurfpro13]

swim has 2 very good friends, he has a car, a job, a good household, good reputation and not the best grades. swims friends smoke/drink, swim likes to drink/BLOW!! and swims friends have not tried blow, swim has done it a lot, but swims friends think swim had done less that he actually has. swims friends do not like that he uses, but they try to work with him. swim loves his buddies to death and values their thoughts and opinions, but swim also loves blow! he is not an addict, when he uses its usually in him room, in large quanities, and swim uses around his friends sometimes, but they usually know and confront him, and that just makes him feel worse. what should swim do?

tell his friends he will use occasionally, will stop cold turkey, or will use whenever he wants?

remember these are swims 2 BEST friends!
thankx for ur help-brewster

[ScorpioSunshine]

Why does swiy lie to his friends? Swim understands that they are against using cocaine, but if swiy is a grown man, he should be able to make his own choices. Does swiy lie because he is embarrassed at how heavy his use is in comparison of what he tells his friends, or does swiy lie only because he doesn't want to face his friends disapproval?

If swiy is responsible, then perhaps swiy could discuss his use with his friends, educate them, dispel myths and acknowledge that there are risks. If swiy values his friends and doesn't feel controlled by the,, but only wants to do the right thing, then swiy could indulge and keep his friends by showing responsible use.

Personally, swim would only come down hard on her friends if she saw irresponsible use. She has always accepted her friends no matter what, and they have done the same for her. On that note, swim has also, at some points in her life, decided that a friendship had run its course and moved on.

Swim is not suggesting that for swiy because it sounds like swiy really values his friends and they are just concerned for him.

Swiy shouldn't lie to his friends. It sounds like they have been honest with him (even though swiy doesn't like their opinions) so he should do they same.

Swiy should quit or curb his use if it's become irresponsible. If not, if swiy is truly in control, then he should be honest and try to educate his friends. Swiy could also not use around them.

But swim is curious what reasons swiy's friends give him for not wanting him to use?

[Msurfpro13]

Hey thanks for the great post! Lots of info helped me out a lot. Swims friends just say its stupid and it harms ur body, which it does not arguing, but that's all they say. It makes swim mad cuz his use in not addictive, when he uses he does a lot, but he dosent need it to function

[ScorpioSunshine]

You're welcome!

So it sounds as if swiy's friends are just concerned. Then swiy could just try not to use around them and keep on keeping it under control.

Best of luck to swiy! Keep us posted!

[Msurfpro13]

yea thats what swim tries to do, keep it low and under radar, he did an 8ball last night, and he wont be telling them that, cuz they dont need to know.

[Junket]

The way I see it, (this goes for anybody)

Its your life. Do whatever you want to do and let nobody stop you.

HOWEVER

Don't be stupid and ignore your friends opinions, because more often than not, they are truly looking out for you in the only way they know how..

SO

Take what they say, and if you understand what they are trying to tell you, but you still want to sniff, then get an 8ball an have at it...

BUT

If you hear what they are saying, but you choose to ignore it, ( especially if its a true feeling or statement, for example):

"man, you aren't as cool as you used to be"
"you always seem sketch now"
"you said you would hang out with us, but you never showed up"

THEN

You are at fault and you need to step your game up as a friend.

BASICALLY...

Make intelligent decisions.
When in doubt, slow your use down
Don't blow money you don't have
Don't ignore friends

an I THINK

that lying to friends is ok, if its for a good reason.

Lying to make yourself look better - NO
Lying about not being to hang out because you truly don't want to - OK.

No feelings are hurt and you can move on with your day

WOW

I've posted too much..

JUNKET OUT