Be Happy? Is it Possible?

[CrazyCueman]

Hey all,



I don't use drugs and don't really want to but I am somewhat interested
in the idea IF I can find something that would make me enjoy life
again. My work sucks, my weight is not where I want it, I'm always
tired and cranky. Life HAS to be better than this! I am not a depressed
person, just need a "spark" to make me less uptight all the time. When
I drink some beer at social events I am not uptight and enjoy life but
when sober I don't. Does that make sense? Anyway, are there and safer
drugs out there that give you a better moods? I just want to be the
"happy-go lucky" person I once knew. I guess with age we all change,
who knows. I want to be full of energy, happy and a person everyone
wants to be around!



Any thoughts?

[cyberfunk]

Drugs are not the answer to your happyness or enjoying life. you have to do this yourself. Let me explain. I read a book a while ago called "you can be happy no matter what"(don't remember the author), but what it talked about was that your happiness or enjoyment for life starts with your own thoughts. If you start usuing drugs to be happy all the time your going to run into problems like attiction and that you will be dependant on the drug for your happiness and this isn't what you want. I suggest trying to find the book i was talking about and reading it. it worked for me. The book explains everything a lot better than i can. But just do what makes you happy and think back to when you were your old happy-go-lucky self and try to remember what it was that made you that way.


Life does suck sometimes but it can be an awsome experiance the rest of the time.


Also, if you want to have energy again and since you said you were't happy with your weight try ecercising 3 times a week at a local gym, or get out and do something. I started doing that a long time ago and i have al my energy back. I go to the gym whenver i can and even though its a lot of work after a while you start to feel really good. Also eating healthier and giving your body what it needs will also improve your mood.


Its sounds like a lot of work but once you get going everything will start going your way. Don't go for the quick fix it never works. I hope this info helped you out and i wish you luck.

[Woodman]

Well said, cyberfunk.

CrazyCueman, sometimes life isn't all that
enjoyable. If you're in some kind of a rut, then don't
rely on drugs to bring you out of it.

Try starting with a regular diet & exercise because if
you don't have enough self discipline to regulate
these elements in your life, you're not ready for
recreational drug use.

[Curtains]

join a gym, i used to always be tired then i started excrising and i'm not anymore..drugs should be used to escape the shitty things in your life

[djryand]

I agree with the above, except I feel moderate cannabis or hallucinogen use can help you to see and appreciate the positive aspects of your life. IMO, cannabis is a miracle anti-depressant. It makes me love life so much more (I'm much better with my wife & daughter; especially when I'm stressed the fuck out and feeling very negative. I would agree that you shouldn't rely on drugs for happiness, but they can change your outlook for the better in moderation. Whatever you do I hope you find your happiness.

[thydarkprevails]

i agree with the other posters, especially the exercise factor...eat well and get an exercise routine..you will feel a huge improvement...as far as cannabis goes, yes, i agree, it does elevate the spirit, but your spirit needs to be grounded in a proper place before you dabble into hallucinogens like mushrooms, or you will have a bad time..a real bad time..

all i can say is from personal experience..i used to be so unhappy that death constantly crossed my mind, but i did not feel the need to die, i felt that i deserved my constant suffering. i used to drink 7 days a week, alone, and just drown my sorrows..than one day, sometime in feburary of this year, after breaking away from friends and family and relationships for a few months to be alone, i realized that i am content with life. it has its ups and downs, but this solitary painful feeling i had inside me, it was useless. you never know where you go when you die, so live it now, to the fullest, and just enjoy yourself..i think self realization is the true key to happiness...just like people who are needy, and need a relationship to depend on, it's no different that a alcoholic, or a dependant user of any drug who uses it for negative aspects. once you are content with yourself, and find who you are, you will unlock a whole new world for you to enjoy..

my advice to you, my friend, is to do just as i did, find out who you really are, and follow your spirit to happiness

[CrazyCueman]

Thanks for the replies, I appreciate all your insight.



Let me first explain that I am</span> working out and do</span> belong to a gym so I am trying</span> to get back in shape and lose the weight. I know that will help with my attitude in life but this will take time</span>. As far as my work goes, I cannot</span> change my job and I must deal with it and although I do work out and relieve stress that way my work I cannot escape from.



For the most part I am a content</span> person but my original post was to probe some of you for opinions</span>
on how to compensate for the bad days or more stressful days which are
beyond my control. I can't smoke week during the day so that's out. I
would though love to pop something during the day which would give me
some energy</span> and a feeling of total happiness</span>
while I deal with my job. I can't take anything that would cause me to
be groggy or tired for I must concentrate on many details during the
day and I talk to many people all day long. I just want to be alert,
more confident</span> and most of all, have fun with my job instead of dreading work every day! Make sense?



Now, I have smoked weed in the past but don't wish to anymore. It's not
good for you when you are trying to work out because of your lungs. I
run a lot and don't want to fill my lungs with smoke! I would rather
ingest something if possible when needed. Some days are not as bad as
others but for those very stressful days it would be nice to have that backup</span>
when need be. I am a person who would not abuse it either. I wouldn't
let something take control over me so don't worry. I posted this for
ideas. If there is something on the market like an herb or something
that would allow me to enjoy my stressful days a little better that
would be awesome. If not, what do I need?



Again, thanks for the input and now you know a little more about my situation.



Here's my view of the perfect day...



Wake up, go to work in a positive</span> way. Once at work have a good time and not worry every minute</span>
about my customer's or my work load (which are impossible to deal with
sometimes!) Have a great amount of energy while having a good time no
matter what</span> happens. Come home at the end of the day and think to myself... "That was a fun day!"



Is this possible...?? I know it's an attitude adjustment mostly but there HAS</span> to be something</span> to help me along the way until I maybe turn the corner on my own...



Thanks!

[P!MPJU!C3]

Originally Posted by cyberfunk

Drugs are not the answer to your happyness or enjoying life. you have to do this yourself. Let me explain. I read a book a while ago called "you can be happy no matter what"(don't remember the author), but what it talked about was that your happiness or enjoyment for life starts with your own thoughts. If you start usuing drugs to be happy all the time your going to run into problems like attiction and that you will be dependant on the drug for your happiness and this isn't what you want. I suggest trying to find the book i was talking about and reading it. it worked for me. The book explains everything a lot better than i can. But just do what makes you happy and think back to when you were your old happy-go-lucky self and try to remember what it was that made you that way.


Life does suck sometimes but it can be an awsome experiance the rest of the time.


Also, if you want to have energy again and since you said you were't happy with your weight try ecercising 3 times a week at a local gym, or get out and do something. I started doing that a long time ago and i have al my energy back. I go to the gym whenver i can and even though its a lot of work after a while you start to feel really good. Also eating healthier and giving your body what it needs will also improve your mood.


Its sounds like a lot of work but once you get going everything will start going your way. Don't go for the quick fix it never works. I hope this info helped you out and i wish you luck.

This some damn fine advice

[Curtains]

could always talk to ur doctor about trying anti-depressants, made a world of a difference for me when it came to confidence and happiness....before i used to be the shyest person becuase i was always worried what others thought about what i say or do, my happyness was at an all time low the littlest thing would set me off in a week depression where thoughts of suicide crossed my mind over and over. Then i got put on effexor and confidence went up didn't care so much what people thought of me and general happyness went way up.....but thats just me

[CrazyCueman]

Effexor huh? Thanks, I'll look into that.



You know, I often think sometimes and I starting to get a little</span> depressed. Although it doesn't run in our family at times I seriously think I may be seeing the early</span>
signs of it. By all means I never have extreme thoughts of taking my
own life or anything remotely close to that but I do sometimes wonder
why my quality of life suffers when it use to never even be a thought
in my mind. Like I said, I was always happy and confident. Now, life
kinda just goes by and I find myself always bitching about everything
and not enjoying life like others do. I dread mornings, especially work
week days and I am even getting to the point where weekends aren't fun
anymore. Maybe it's a midlife crisis (I'm 36) or maybe I am in a rut</span>
like someone mentioned. I am not sure to be honest. I know I need a
change of something, that's for sure! I really do have a great life but
I can't seem to appreciate it I guess. I can't help it. So thanks again
for all the advice. I'll keep searching for answers...