help for alcoholic sister

[slb7971]

Hello all,


I am new to this forum and am hoping that someone is able to help. I have a younger sister who is very addicted to alcohol and drugs and is seriously in need of help. She has a 10 year old boy whom she has abandoned along with her job and she is now out and about without us knowing where she is. She is completely out of control. She is 27 years old. I have called Rehab centers to seeif there was a wayI can get her inandthey told me that she has to be willing to come in but I don't see that happening at all anytime soon. She has been drinking and taking drugs for more than7 years and there isnt a day that goes by that she does not drink until wee hours in the morning. Is there a way or a place that we (my family) canadmit her in even though she is not willing. Any suggestions or help is very much appreciated...

[OneDiaDem]

Thats a tough one hon. It takes getting a court order basically saying that she is incompetant. Unless she tries to kill herself, literally, this is going to be very hard to do. It is after all, her right to choose to drink, no matter how devastating it is to those who love her. Good luck to you.

[pink]

I honestly think she needs a hug, none of this look at you your a mess shit, try and ask her how she is and why. There is usually an underlying reason for this depression, i.e lonliness, self hatred, rejection and many other life experiences that might of caused this self distruction. Instead of putting her down and letting her know her mistakes try giving her some positive issues about herself and getting her to set small goals at a time. Rehab and words like that seam so daunting and make you feel like some kind of nut when most of the time people have this drummed into their head so much they have so little respect for themselves because thats how they believe people feel about them. If you make it seem smaller and make her feel good about little things the big issue will fall into place without her even realising.


I understand your concern but she will only do this for herself when she feels good about herself and you as her family must bite your lips especially when shes having a good day let yer know how proad of her you are for the smallest acheivment without being patronising, if that makes any sense I know what I mean Ive bean there...........

[butter]

I would do something. Go on a vacation with her. Have a few drinks or whatever there, maybe you can somehow help moderate and bring the topics up to here. It would be the only real way to get her away from the bad vibes, or people.



-butter

[butter]

In addition to what I said. Trying to get her admitted may only be turning her against you. Beware of this, because then she could actually start to think that your the "enemy". I know how people can be, if she is a stubborn person, then that's exactly what is going to happen. A nice long vacation might actually help out a lot, somewhere where she couldn't walk out and ask for drugs. (Which is almost impossible to find)



I hope all goes well for you best of luck.



-butter

[hollywood]

Take her to a highschool and see if they will show her the films of car crashes........................................... .................................................. ......