So sick of the drink

[deliverme]

I am 37 and have been hitting the drink for the last 4 years most evening ... not all but most ... does this make me depend on it ? do i really need help i have never blacked out or drink till i cant stand ... HELP but i am scared this controls me rather me control it

[Alicia]

Drink ~ is only a problem when u need it everyday to function be on every task before you do that task, your think u need a drink to achieve the mental fullness to complete that task when ya start thinking you need to complete tasks daily/work related then swiy has a problem. be it a difficult one swia knows to well...

[lilitu]

Have you tried to stop? If you hate it and you've tried to stop and can't, you may have a problem.

[st3v3]

You are having drinking binges. You know what you are doing isn't something you really want, that you are out of control by doing this, and something else is of cause for allowing this to begin. Seek help before it gets worse. And don't be scared, because you can win your control back, in time.

[methMADMAN]

Alcoholics Anonymous is your single best hope. It's changed the lives of millions of hopeless alcoholics and there you will be welcome with open arms by those that truly understand because we have been there. It's true that there are a lot of sick drunks and prolems in the meetings if you look for that, but if you come looking for hope you will find that.

[deliverme]

Well since i wrote this thread i was very scared to do this in the first place, I havent touched a drink since i am starting to feel more control and i know its early days but i am so trying to turn this around and me control this before it toally controls me
many thanks for all the replies....

[Beanfondler]

If you feel as though you lost yourself to dependence of any given substance simply abstaining from use in most cases is only part of the recovery. Depression and/or anything similar likely fueled the addiction or was produced by it. Seeking help to remedy any mental difficulties you may be having will be the best thing you can do, what will help you is completely dependent on you and you will have to find out what that is.

[deliverme]

Originally Posted by Beanfondler

If you feel as though you lost yourself to dependence of any given substance simply abstaining from use in most cases is only part of the recovery. Depression and/or anything similar likely fueled the addiction or was produced by it. Seeking help to remedy any mental difficulties you may be having will be the best thing you can do, what will help you is completely dependent on you and you will have to find out what that is.

Well my mother suffers memory loss from a brain operation and since then i have been hitting the bottle as i feel i have already losed my mother and that hit me hard ... i feel at times why do i bother .... why are we on earth for what reason .. i just need some happiness

[Beanfondler]

I am sorry to hear what happened to your mother, I hope that her condition and your emotional state will heal in time. Don't loose hope no matter how depressed or lost you may feel it is always possible to remedy this. From what you've indicated it seems as though you sought something out to lull/numb the emotions associated with your mother's condition and what you have found was alcohol. Doing this is extremely unhealthy in that it prevents emotional recovery and creates problems of it's own. If you can find a healthy way to address and cope with those emotions you will feel happiness again. Seek psychiatric help or talk with close friends, exercise has always been a great way for me to deal with stress/sadness it may also benefit you in some way.

Good luck to you!