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deliverme
04-08-2007, 19:00
I am 37 and have been hitting the drink for the last 4 years most evening ... not all but most ... does this make me depend on it ? do i really need help i have never blacked out or drink till i cant stand ... HELP :( but i am scared this controls me rather me control it
Drink ~ is only a problem when u need it everyday to function be on every task before you do that task, your think u need a drink to achieve the mental fullness to complete that task when ya start thinking you need to complete tasks daily/work related then swiy has a problem. be it a difficult one swia knows to well...
Have you tried to stop? If you hate it and you've tried to stop and can't, you may have a problem.
You are having drinking binges. You know what you are doing isn't something you really want, that you are out of control by doing this, and something else is of cause for allowing this to begin. Seek help before it gets worse. And don't be scared, because you can win your control back, in time.
methMADMAN
09-08-2007, 04:21
Alcoholics Anonymous is your single best hope. It's changed the lives of millions of hopeless alcoholics and there you will be welcome with open arms by those that truly understand because we have been there. It's true that there are a lot of sick drunks and prolems in the meetings if you look for that, but if you come looking for hope you will find that.
deliverme
09-08-2007, 10:39
Well since i wrote this thread i was very scared to do this in the first place, I havent touched a drink since i am starting to feel more control and i know its early days but i am so trying to turn this around and me control this before it toally controls me
many thanks for all the replies....
Beanfondler
09-08-2007, 10:52
If you feel as though you lost yourself to dependence of any given substance simply abstaining from use in most cases is only part of the recovery. Depression and/or anything similar likely fueled the addiction or was produced by it. Seeking help to remedy any mental difficulties you may be having will be the best thing you can do, what will help you is completely dependent on you and you will have to find out what that is.
deliverme
09-08-2007, 16:09
If you feel as though you lost yourself to dependence of any given substance simply abstaining from use in most cases is only part of the recovery. Depression and/or anything similar likely fueled the addiction or was produced by it. Seeking help to remedy any mental difficulties you may be having will be the best thing you can do, what will help you is completely dependent on you and you will have to find out what that is.
Well my mother suffers memory loss from a brain operation and since then i have been hitting the bottle as i feel i have already losed my mother and that hit me hard ... i feel at times why do i bother .... why are we on earth for what reason .. i just need some happiness
Beanfondler
09-08-2007, 16:28
I am sorry to hear what happened to your mother, I hope that her condition and your emotional state will heal in time. Don't loose hope no matter how depressed or lost you may feel it is always possible to remedy this. From what you've indicated it seems as though you sought something out to lull/numb the emotions associated with your mother's condition and what you have found was alcohol. Doing this is extremely unhealthy in that it prevents emotional recovery and creates problems of it's own. If you can find a healthy way to address and cope with those emotions you will feel happiness again. Seek psychiatric help or talk with close friends, exercise has always been a great way for me to deal with stress/sadness it may also benefit you in some way.
Good luck to you!
stephy171072
19-01-2009, 09:22
Well done stopping the drinking binges after that post. Sometimes I think back to when I was falling into the cycle of drinking every night and I have wondered on a number of occassions if when I had started to feeling the drinking was getting out of hand, if I had done soemthing about it then, then maybe things would have been different? I guess I will never really know the answer to that question but it is possible that by notesing the signs early on and actually doing something about it you have saved your self a lot of pain and greif. So you should be proud of yourself. Also remember if you do ever fall back into it again that there are lots of different things out there to help you and I think everyone just needs to find the thing that works for them. Even if its just someone close to you you can talk about your fears with and who will keep a eye on things and help you through anything you need.
Good luck! :)
cannabis-sam
19-01-2009, 11:35
Maybe SWIY could switch to marijuana. From what swim understands drinking very regularly you could build up a physical dependance and this could have some severe withdrawel syptoms but SWIM thinks it doesn't sound like you're at the stage where you wake up needing a drink. Coping with stress and upsetting things can be hard and using psychoactive substances to escape, in SWIM's experience, difficult toubles only makes things worse in the long run. Drink masks the pain when you don't drink the pain comes back so you drink more.
You could try and stay away from alcohol (although it is difficult in this alcohol loving society we belong to) If you're not physically dependant taking your mind off things with other activities so you don't think about drink.
On a side note SWIM wonders how people can stand to drink regularly if at all it's one of the most boring drugs around.